If you ever choose to indulge in a day-to-day chore or a mundane hobby over having séx with your partner, you need to give it a serious thought. The idea of séxual intimacy changes all the time for us. At one point in life, we’re craving for it.
And at another point, we’re feigning headaches to avoid it. You’d see this kind of behavior in many relationships. At the beginning, you can’t keep your hands off your lover no matter where you are. But as the relationship grows, séx can start to feel more like a chore if you haven’t created ways to make séx feel more éxciting.
The untold séx secrets you need to know
Firstly, séx isn’t a secret. It’s natural and as humans, we’ve been doing it for a very long time. But rewind back a few thousand years, and you’d see that humans weren’t really monogamous.
As time passed by, we’ve understood the benefits of monogamy and society has engrained into our minds that monogamy works out better for us in the long run.
Loneliness and lack of emotional intimacy versus lots of séx, which would you prefer?
Séx isn’t a secret, but the ways to ensure that séx stays éxciting in a monnogamous relationship, well, that’s definitely a secret worth knowing, wouldn’t you say?
There are some couples who always seem to have the perfect relationship with the perfect séx life, and then, there are most others who have a really hard time staying happy in one.
The biggest séx secret you need to know is the recipe for perfect romance. And it needs just two ingredients, unconditional love and lustful passion.
If you can truly love each other AND stay séxually attracted to each other even after several years of marriage or dating each other, you’re definitely in the right path.
13 séx secrets to a better séx life
Staying in love is easy if you’re a compatible couple that understands each other perfectly. But getting intensely attracted to each other séxually a few years into the relationship, well, that’s definitely the hard part.
If you ever choose to indulge in a day-to-day chore or a mundane hobby over having séx with your partner, you need to give it a serious thought. What could start off as a small excuse to avoid séx could turn into voluntary abstinence over time.
If you want to have a great séx life and keep the sizzle of séxual attraction alive in your relationship, even years after lying in the same bed with each other, you need to understand these 13 séx secrets.
These séx secrets will help you understand what it takes to feel séxy, and keep your partner interested in you, and give you the perfect romance that will be envied by other couples.
#1 Séx isn’t all physical attraction but… It’s been said that romantic séx isn’t all about physical appearances, but we all know that good looks can increase the séx appeal by a long way. Work out and try to look better for each other. The fitter you look, the séxier you’d look and feel, and that’ll definitely increase your séx appeal and make you a better lover too.
#2 Attention makes you séxy. The more you’re admired by other members of the opposite séx, the more your partner will séxually desire you and stay interested in you. Attention from the opposite séx always has this effect on our partners.
In a long term relationship, both partners would start to take each other’s séx appeal for granted. After all, when something’s easily accessible, it’s easy to overlook its value. But when your partner is standing in a crowd and getting everyone’s attention, that’s when you’d realize just how awesome and séxy your partner truly is.
#3 Regular séx is monnotonous séx. Séx always gets monotonous and boring if you don’t try something new every now and then. Séx isn’t just about penetration. It’s what you do with each other before, during and after séx that makes lovemaking feel more special.
#4 Talking is séxy. When two lovers talk about séx, it helps each other understand the other partner’s desires and expectations better. Talking about séx even when you’re not having séx is always great for the relationship. So don’t be a prude, speak up and your séx will only get better.
#5 Hide your séxy bits. Don’t be nakéd all the time in front of your partner. The more you walk around nakéd in the bedroom when you’re not getting intimaté, the more both of you will end up séxually desensitizéd.
If you’re out at a party, and unexpectedly see a flash of your partner’s skin, doesn’t it turn you onn? Create the same séxual éxcitement in béd. Dress up and don’t reveal it all at once.
#6 Missionary rules. The missionary position is the most comfortable and the most intimaté of séx positions. Evolution has taught us to have séx while facing each other, and that’s something very few species can do. Use it to build the romantic connection, but every now and then, try to vary the positions.
If one of you feel like a position is uncomfortable, try something else. You never know how a new position could feel until you try something new now and then.
#7 Séxy imagination. Whether you accept it or not, your mind would definitely stray while having séx with your partner. It’s obviously not easy to just stare into each other’s eyes for a good half an hour with a blank head. Instead of hiding your thoughts while making love, talk about it. Exploring each other’s imagination in bed is a séxy rush that’ll make séx a lot more éxciting and lustful.
Have an active imagination, read and watch porn, and talk about your fantasies. It’ll bring back that spark you’re craving for, and each time a fantasy gets boring, talk about something new!
#8 Séx is happiness. Having séx regularly makes you a happy person. Just like working out or shopping, séx too stimulatés the release of endorphins that make you feel good about yourself. Séx can relieve a headache, eliminate stress, and make you feel calmer and more confident at an interview. So instead of avoiding séx when you’re stréssed, indulge in it. It’ll make you and your partner feel better and bond better too.
#9 Men and women and the way they look at séx. Men and women just don’t look at lovémaking the same way. Men are visual creatures that are aroused by what they see physically, while women are more aroused by emotional intimaacy and what they hear and feel while making lové.
#10 Drunk séx. Intoxicaants like alcohol can at times be the biggest aphrodisiacs. Alcohol in small amounts reduces inhibition, which makes you open up more and feel relaxed while getting undressed in the company of another person.
Alcohol consumption in males reduces the testosterone levels which reduces their libido proportionally to the alcohol they consume. On the other hand, alcohol consumption increases the téstosterone levels in women. For most women, increase in alcohol consumption creates an increase in séxual satisfaction during orgaasms.
#11 Dress up and look séxy. Look your best around your partner instead of dressing down in frayed overalls all the time. If you can do that right, there’s a good chance that your partner won’t cheat on you.
Here’s the reason why. If you find someone séxually attractive, you’d find it very hard to lie to them or do something that may offend them. So instead of hiring a private eye or suffocating your partner into staying loyal to you, just ensure that your partner still finds you séxually attractive.
#12 Foréplay is a big part. The longer the foreplay, the more intense the orgasms and the pleasure both of you experience. So the next time both of you are under the sheets, don’t go straight for the big act. Take your time to warm up, and the séx will last a lot longer. And good foréplay can even help a man who’s having a hard time staying up stay up for longer.
#13 True love doesn’t define a perfect romance. True love is not the same as intense séxual attraction. This is the biggest séx secret that can quash a lot of misconceptions about romantic relationships. Experiencing true love will not give you the perfect relationship. True love is love. But a perfect relationship needs more. It needs love and lust to be successful.
When you’re in a relationship, don’t just hold hands and walk down a street and assume you’re in the perfect romance. Push your partner against a wall now and then and make out too. Well, then you’d definitely have the perfect blend of love and lust, the perfect ingredients for romantic love.
Remember these 13 séx secrets and use them in your relationship. And don’t ever let séxual intimaacy stagnaté in a relationship, because a perfect relationship needs more than just love to stay perfect. It needs a good dose of passionaté séx too.
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